The Magic of Self-Love
The Importance Of Loving Yourself
We usually set standards that are too high for ourselves because society expects us to be perfect. We tend to forget that everyone has flaws including the people we perceive to be perfect. We are all human. We all have flaws, and we all must find a way to love ourselves by accepting our flaws, mistakes, weaknesses, regrets, and all. Everyone makes mistakes. Making mistakes is not a bad thing that you should avoid completely. It’s one of the best ways to learn and grow. Everyone wants to be loved and we often think that means we need to seek it from other people. But when you seek love from external sources you are allowing it to be taken away from you, which can leave you feeling empty and broken on the inside.
We’ve been taught to put others first.
We’ve been taught the importance of success. We’ve been taught to work hard and make money. But we haven’t been taught how to keep ourselves feeling fueled for that journey.
It’s important to love yourself because of the simple truth that you cannot take care of others until you take care of yourself first.
Self-love is our fuel; it’s the foundation for who we are.
Everything builds on top of this foundation, and if it isn’t solid, life feels shaky. For those of us who have experienced the power of self-love, we can agree that the effects can often feel quite magical. The moment we start loving ourselves, we experience shifts—positive shifts. Life begins to move forward with more ease and things begin to magically fall into place. Relationships improve. Health improves. And life begins to feel good, really good—ridiculously good.
Loving you first and creating that deep, internal relationship has countless magical benefits.
It’s the first step to building a great relationship with yourself. Independence from someone else’s approval, criticism, and security is one of the most liberating things you will ever feel! By doing this, you’re setting the stage for yourself- you’ll begin to trust and believe in YOUR decisions, and act on them with confidence. When you have this kind of relationship with yourself, everything else becomes possible and a whole lot easier.
It’s important to love yourself because of the simple truth that you cannot take care of others until you take care of yourself first. When you fully love yourself, this gives you the opportunity to move through the world with deeper compassion for others.
Also, you’ll have greater resilience to withstand any challenging life event or personal adversity. Depression, anxiety, stress, and the obsession with perfection, will vanish in the face of pure optimism that self-love creates!
There is no “right” way to go about loving yourself more.
Self-love is not selfish, it is about connecting to your innermost needs, celebrating the freedom of being you, and honoring who you truly are while dropping your destructive patterns.
All you must do is make an active effort to do so and from there find the way that works best for you. It is not the "how" that matters, but the "why."
I’d like to share a few ways that can help you to start loving yourself more and ways to practice.
Becoming mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want.
Taking actions based on need rather than want. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
Practicing good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
Making room for healthy habits. Start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat, how you exercise, and what you spend time doing. Do stuff, not to “get it done” or because you “have to,” but because you care about you.
Learn to say “NO” to things that you do not agree with.
Stick to your opinions and follow only what your heart says.
Trust your decisions and stop doubting your capabilities.
Once you start to take action with loving yourself, you’ll start seeing love flowing in from all directions.
Self-love is not selfish, it is about connecting to your innermost needs, celebrating the freedom of being you, and honoring who you truly are while dropping your destructive patterns. Loving yourself is magical—it’s a divine relationship that will help you radically improve every single aspect of your life. So go on, drop the guilt, and embrace having a deep, loving relationship with YOU.